I have been reflecting on how dangerous it can be to trust ourselves or others in moments of desperation. Desperation clouds judgment, weakens discernment, and pushes us to lean on our own understanding instead of the will of God. At its core, desperation often grows out of distrust and impatience. We struggle to believe there is better ahead, and we lack the patience to wait for the exceeding and abundant things God has promised. In turn, we convince ourselves that if we create the opportunity, the relationship, or the connection on our own, it will somehow be more fulfilling than simply waiting on Him.

“Trust in and rely confidently on the Lord with all your heart And do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him, And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way].”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭3‬:‭5‬-‭6‬ ‭AMP‬‬

The truth is, waiting is not easy, especially when it feels like we have been waiting for far too long. I do not dismiss the frustration or weariness that comes with that, but desperation is a dangerous space to live in. When we become desperate for an opportunity, a door to open, relief, marriage, children, community, or financial stability, we make ourselves vulnerable to counterfeits. It becomes easy to accept what looks like an answer, but in reality is a trap. Imagine longing for a new vehicle, and someone offers you one. At first, it feels like a blessing, but soon the check engine light comes on, the oil light follows, then the battery dies, and suddenly you realize you were sold a lemon. Now you are left without transportation and with fewer resources than before. If only you had waited, you might have avoided being set back even further.

“For your heart will always pursue what you esteem as your treasure.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭6‬:‭21‬ ‭TPT‬‬

That is why I want to emphasize that waiting on God, though difficult, is deeply rewarding. The waiting season is often where He does His greatest work, shaping us through endurance. Sometimes the furnace is not an attack from the enemy but a refining fire that strengthens patience, molds character, and reveals where our hearts truly rest. I pray we do not let go, even when the waiting feels unbearable. If all we can do is hold on to the hem of His garment, may we hold on faithfully, trusting that He is working even in the wait.